When knowing Chad would not find a new job in Peoria, Illinois, at the time, I didn't know when he would be moving, what I would have to do on my own, or how it would affect our lives. When I decided to put myself out there to see if I could relocate to a more artistic market, during interviews, I had to picture myself in a new city, a new environment, and eventually, a completely new industry (if law and government can be categorized as "industry").
Nothing has ever come easily to me, and no one has ever handed me anything. I have worked my best to accomplish everything I have received. I suffer self-doubt; my negative self-talk is deafening; the image I hold of myself is beyond disappointing, but I find ways to still fight for what I want.
Yet, somehow, I am still surprised when I face barriers against goals. Maybe it's part of my process - to reach that moment when my head tells me, "you know you aren't good enough for this. Who in the world did you think you were fooling?"
But I keep pushing. I attended my first "Sexy Stiletto" dance class and went ahead and joined the group for the video promo. I achieved my certification as a Dance Fitness Instructor this weekend. I am sharing all this - whether anyone gives a shit to read it or not - I am being brave enough to post it, share it, and keep it real.
Today on Facebook, there was a statement shared in a group by a beautiful young woman who is just ready to die. She doesn't feel she has anything to contribute anymore, and, while she doesn't intend to take her own life, she has sunk to such a low that death seems her only consolation. I don't have the answers for her - I don't even have the answers for you or for myself. However, I do know that we are all on this planet for a reason. We may never comprehend why, but I think it's our job to do what we can for one another. It might be as simple as a smile when you make eye contact with a stranger, a quick text to a friend, or an invitation to someone to get out and "do something" and actually follow through. Or you can lead in a supervisory position, be a mentor, or inspire some people to dance in a fitness class... maybe all the above.
I don't know my purpose. But if I can inspire anyone - any one person - to try something new or dance without care or share feelings when they feel they are all alone, I will feel I have succeeded. Thank you for your support. Let's dance.